I was thinking recently about how much I enjoy the internet and things such as facebook, message boards and indeed mobile phones with text messaging. And then that set me thinking about whether I would have liked them had they been availble when I was fifteen. In some ways yes I think I would - I used to spend hours on the phone to my friends each evening - if I wasn't seeing them - and I think it would have been great to have been able to text them. But - there is also a nasty side to it. I wonder how it would have felt to be cyber bullied - to find myself defriended, or even to see myself being anonymously slagged off on one of the many sites that seem to go in for such things. And I think it would have been utterly demoralising and something very difficult to cope with. Do teenagers today just see it a normal? (Kate? )
I heard a bird cry, sharp and free. My name is Jordan.
In the last years of my high school life, much social life already took place on MSN and Hyves. I was very late to join (since we had dial up internet for a very long time), so I sometimes felt quite left out. On the other hand, the friends I had were real friends. I think for teenagers it's very confusing who are your real friends because distance and interest is hard to gauge on things like Facebook. Clicking like is easy, but that doesn't mean people actually like it or you. People liking your things a lot could result in you thinking they are your friends when they are not. I really don't mind not having had those connections in my early teens. It's hard enough to figure out who your friends are in real life.
★ Friends are those rare people who ask how we are and then wait to hear the answer. ★
The Earth laughs in flowers ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson, "Hamatreya"...
At the age of 15 we had Internet at home but it was slow and expensive (we had to pay by hourly usage), so I was using it mostly to check some information or watch porn (what? Isn't that the whole purpose of the Internet? ). I spent my teens thinking I was the only atheist in Morocco, so I think I would have found other people more easily if the Internet was more accessible, and social networks like facebook were available at the time. Chances are, I would have probably ended up not joining English forums, including EF, and my English wouldn't have improved beyond school level, since one of my main motivations for improving my English was communicating efficiently with other atheists.
“We think we understand the rules when we become adults but what we really experience is a narrowing of the imagination.”
I was in my twenties when the internet and mobile phones became a real thing to most people.
Byt looking at my kids now, one 16 and the other 11, they have grown up with it and remember nothing else. They move pretty smoothly in that world. That said, one hears about Facebook bullying, or even WhatsApp bullying, though I think also those are becoming better as they are starting to be taken seriously by the authorities, and they will intervene to have a discussion with the parties even if the people involved are too young to participate.
True .. though I think the internet provides a wider scope. In a way your kids are a guinea pig generation - they do not remember a time before the internet and yet the regulations that I feel will come to the net (whether I want them to or not) in time are not yet in place.
I heard a bird cry, sharp and free. My name is Jordan.
We were bullied in our village since the local pastor spread the rumour that we were members of a cult. If there had been social networks like today, it probably would have spread beyond anything I would like to imagine. But the Internet helped my English as well. I found pen pals there and then the forums. I never studied for writing English, I just posted in forums a lot and got better results than many students I studied with.
That was the great thing about Dungeons and Dragons. One could just make a new character if you died. Though it was easy in the early rules. Later rules made character creation like a lengthy process. I spent a few hours one time creating a character according to the newer rules on a campaign.
He who is satisfied with pure experience and acts in accordance with it, has sufficient truth. The growing child is wise in this sense.
Well, I think that depends a lot upon subjective experience in those years. Mine started bad with the separation of my parents, while my mother was institutionalized, so it was pretty downer all the way around. But, as that decade fishtaled along the road of life, it turned out to be something of a positive, living on my own as a teenager much of the time (since my mother was institutionalized) made me a fair amount more 'responsible' than many of my cohort companions. I thought my latter teens were blissful, as I discovered the opposite gender and got plenty of positive feedback in the exploration of that discovery.
In my day, tools like we see today were the pipedreams of crackpot comic strip writers.
The phone was rotary and always stationary, although it might have had a really long cord. There were telephone boxes everywhere and they tended to be trafficked by dubious characters. In my younger years, most telephones were 'party lines', where multiple trunk callers might use the same line and therefore be able to overhear the conversations of other trunk callers on their line.
Well. I don't miss my teenage years. I hated my father but I don't these days. He valued everything else except his kids. Was Abusive and loved to use his power and influence to control his family. Emancipated myself from him when I was 14. Nowadays, I just pity him and forgave him, to much energy to hold onto the past. My mother was always busy with her thing so grandmother raised me mostly.
My 20's was fun. I traveled, built my world up without help from family. I had a bad first marriage the stuff you could turn into a hallmark movie as most of my life could be but prefer not to. My ex husband was thrilling, exciting, fun, a CEO, loving in his own way..... until he didn't get what he wanted. Left on disasterous terms which is a story in itself. Now I am friends with him even though he has tried to win me back over the years. (Never again of course). My current husband is wonderful. Have enjoyed life even though I've had some struggles in my adult life ..... it's still way better than the teenager years!