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Post by Elis on Nov 5, 2020 12:47:05 GMT
A friend of my family's just wrote to me. A relative from Britain has passed away and they don't know of they should send a condolence card, and possibly money. He is asking what would be appropriate. Have to admit I have no experience with that area (something I'm glad about).
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Post by Kye on Nov 5, 2020 12:50:37 GMT
I have lots of experience! A card, yes. Money, no unless there's a charity the bereaved would like you to contribute to.
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Post by tangent on Nov 5, 2020 13:24:48 GMT
Yes, I would agree. If the funeral is within travelling distance, your friend could ask for the date of the funeral and consider taking flowers. Or a contribution to a charity might be collected after the service.
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Post by JoeP on Nov 6, 2020 11:48:24 GMT
A condolence card would be most appropriate, I think.
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Post by Mari on Nov 7, 2020 6:43:16 GMT
Money is appropriate if the deceased is Asian, but in western cultures it's not really a thing. Mind you, the amount of money should be proportionate to how well you knew the deceased.
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Post by Elis on Nov 7, 2020 16:40:01 GMT
My grandmother received quite a bit of money when my grandfather died. To help cover the funeral, I think. And they were not poor, though not rich, either.
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Post by Kye on Nov 7, 2020 16:41:45 GMT
I guess it's a cultural thing. Here, only close family members would help with funeral costs.
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Post by Mari on Nov 7, 2020 18:52:54 GMT
You all don't have insurance or a savings plan for your funeral? I've saved enough for mine and Peter has insurance. I'd be very unpleasantly surprised if my parents or sister didn't make arrangements for their own funerals.
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Post by Moose on Nov 7, 2020 19:24:20 GMT
My dad got donations when he died but we specifically asked for donations to the local blind society (they did a huge amount to help him). The donations were anonymous though - there was a box in the crematorium - and there was no obligation. A card is definitely appropriate.
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Post by Kye on Nov 7, 2020 20:22:11 GMT
Here, the government gives out a death benefit of 5000$ but it doesn't usually cover the actual cost of the funeral.
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Post by Mari on Nov 8, 2020 7:18:32 GMT
How much does a funeral cost where you are anyhow? Here it's about 7500 euros for the slightly more expensive than all the cheapest options-funeral.
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Post by Kye on Nov 8, 2020 10:16:47 GMT
Usually about 8 to 10 k for the same.
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Post by Elis on Nov 10, 2020 13:11:19 GMT
You all don't have insurance or a savings plan for your funeral? I've saved enough for mine and Peter has insurance. I'd be very unpleasantly surprised if my parents or sister didn't make arrangements for their own funerals. We don't, no. No idea about my parents, or Frank's parents, actually. Frankly, we don't have the money to save up for our funerals at the moment. Life is expensive enough. Though we may take care of that if/when our financial situation changes and we have enough money to save up for a proper pension and our funerals. Being poor means being a pretty irresponsible citizen, I guess.
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Post by tangent on Nov 10, 2020 15:03:53 GMT
No idea about my parents, or Frank's parents, actually. Frankly, we don't have the money to save up for our funerals at the moment. Life is expensive enough. Though we may take care of that if/when our financial situation changes and we have enough money to save up for a proper pension and our funerals. Being poor means being a pretty irresponsible citizen, I guess. You're too young to be thinking of these things. Wait until you're 70 If you die before your time, you're relatives will take care of things.
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Post by Mari on Nov 11, 2020 7:44:35 GMT
But y'all seriously don't have funeral insurance in your countries? Here it's pretty much standard to have one. They're pretty cheap too. Though expensive enough if you live past the age of 50
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Post by Moose on Nov 14, 2020 21:37:55 GMT
There is funeral insurance but I dunno how many people have it. My dad had a bit but not enough to cover the whole thing. The headstone was over a thousand on its own!! (and the engraver offended my mum by asking if she wanted her name and a 1948 - for when she was added
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Post by Mari on Nov 16, 2020 8:14:34 GMT
Than yours work differently from ours. If you have insurance everything for a standard funeral is covered. Even if you die at age 26. They'll recoup the losses from all the people living past 50 or so. The monthly payments do get higher the later you start the insurance though, which is why most people start at 18.
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Post by Elis on Nov 18, 2020 6:25:18 GMT
Germany seems to be the country of insurance, but I have never heard of funeral insurance. Am sure it exists, but doesn't seem to be that common. Either that or nobody who gets it ever talks about it.
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Post by Mari on Nov 18, 2020 19:01:21 GMT
Here it's on the checklist when you turn 18. Along with the all risk and health care insurances.
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