Post by juju on Nov 22, 2020 21:18:29 GMT
Like most families right now, we have a dilemma over Christmas. Our situation is that all three of our boys live away from home, and all three will be spending Christmas alone if they don't come back to us.
The eldest (London) lives with his girlfriend, but she is spending it in Ireland with her family. Our middle son (in Gdansk) lives alone, is desperate to come home - we haven't seen him for a year. His friends are mostly multinational and will be returning home to their families. He has two weeks off work but will have nothing to do if he doesn't come here.
The youngest (Cardiff) is a student and lives with flatmates who will be going home to their families, so he'd be on his own at Christmas.
I want to see them more than anything. But I'm also concerned for our safety - we're not high risk as such, but in our fifties (my husband is closer to 60) so I don't want to put that to the test if I can help it. As I see it, we have three choices:
1. Tell them they can't come.
2. Let them all come and keep our fingers crossed.
3. Let them come but try and get them tested somehow? Not sure how we can do that - I'd happily pay but the timing would have to be right. There's no point getting a test if the virus is too early to show up. And because of their living / work arrangements it wouldn't be possible for them to self isolate for a couple of weeks before they come.
I just don't know what to tell them, and they're pressing me for answers. What would you do? And do you have a Christmas dilemma?
The eldest (London) lives with his girlfriend, but she is spending it in Ireland with her family. Our middle son (in Gdansk) lives alone, is desperate to come home - we haven't seen him for a year. His friends are mostly multinational and will be returning home to their families. He has two weeks off work but will have nothing to do if he doesn't come here.
The youngest (Cardiff) is a student and lives with flatmates who will be going home to their families, so he'd be on his own at Christmas.
I want to see them more than anything. But I'm also concerned for our safety - we're not high risk as such, but in our fifties (my husband is closer to 60) so I don't want to put that to the test if I can help it. As I see it, we have three choices:
1. Tell them they can't come.
2. Let them all come and keep our fingers crossed.
3. Let them come but try and get them tested somehow? Not sure how we can do that - I'd happily pay but the timing would have to be right. There's no point getting a test if the virus is too early to show up. And because of their living / work arrangements it wouldn't be possible for them to self isolate for a couple of weeks before they come.
I just don't know what to tell them, and they're pressing me for answers. What would you do? And do you have a Christmas dilemma?