Yuki
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Post by Yuki on Jan 23, 2015 15:20:17 GMT
I saw this video earlier of Finns reacting to someone getting too close to them in public. I would react almost the same way with a stranger, but in Morocco personal space is usually smaller, and in some places (small cities or rural areas) virtually nonexistent, and the same goes for the notion of privacy.
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Post by Miisa on Jan 23, 2015 17:07:35 GMT
*skincrawl* I was SO vicariously creeped out by what they were doing. How could anyone make such a video?!? Which calls for THE FINNISH BUS STOP!
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Post by Mari on Jan 23, 2015 17:45:54 GMT
Erm, yeah. Creepy. Though in a crowded train I'd settle for less personal space, but it's ridiculous to stand that close when there's enough room. I'll make a point of moving if someone does that to me.
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Post by Moose on Jan 23, 2015 18:01:00 GMT
I like lots and LOTS of personal space ... I really don't feel comfortable next to other people at all.
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Post by Kye on Jan 23, 2015 18:06:01 GMT
I remember being in Europe somewhere --maybe France-- where the Romany beggars would invade your personal space because people would often give them money just to get rid of them. But I'm not squeamish about that so even when they stroked my arm I'd continue to turn them down.
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Post by tangent on Jan 23, 2015 20:33:00 GMT
I remember reading that an Englishman's personal space extended 2ft 3in around his body but an Egyptian felt comfortable with only 9in. I don't know if that's true of Egyptians.
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Post by Alvamiga on Jan 23, 2015 21:39:45 GMT
I've never really had a problem with it, although if people were that close with no reason I'd start to wonder if they were a pickpocket or something like that!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 25, 2015 6:36:02 GMT
I need a lot of personal space as well and would have moved away. I also hate if people sit next to me on the tram or on the bus if there are enough seats available where they would not have to sit next to anyone - unless maybe I sit close to the door and it is an elderly person who can't walk well, but other than that, I hate it and think it's rude.
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Post by raspberrybullets on Jan 25, 2015 9:55:18 GMT
It just seems weird, if there is space, why would you squish up to someone? I think even in cultures where peronal space is much smaller they's presumablly think it weird that with loads of space someone stands practically on top of them.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 25, 2015 12:22:25 GMT
That's what I keep wondering about and it makes me angry when people do that.
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Post by tangent on Jan 25, 2015 22:58:05 GMT
Occasionally, the sauna at the gym is quite full. One day, a young lady came in and the only space available was next to me. I squashed myself up against the wall on the right and she sat only 2" away from me on my left. A short time later, there were only three of us left in the sauna but she continued sitting 2" away from me, chatting away quite merrily, even though there was plenty of room to her left. It didn't bother me but I couldn't work out why she didn't move.
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Post by Moose on Jan 26, 2015 1:00:40 GMT
Steve she might have thought you would consider it rude if she moved. I've had that dilemna on buses before - I will only sit next to someone if there are no other spaces. But then when the bus empties out I never know whether to move to a free double seat or not, in case the person I was sitting next to thinks that I am being insulting by not wanting to continue next to them.
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Post by juju on Jan 26, 2015 8:04:43 GMT
I agree, although if it's likely to be a long journey, say on a train, I might move if a free seat became available.
Actually I felt a bit awkward on the last train journey I had. Although I'd found a single space I realised when the train started that I was facing backwards, which makes me feel ill. There were no forward facing single seats available so I had to leave my seat and go and sit next to someone. Embarrassing.
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Post by ProdigalAlan on Jan 26, 2015 10:01:32 GMT
You guys should really learn to fart more often
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Post by Mari on Jan 26, 2015 15:47:19 GMT
I agree, although if it's likely to be a long journey, say on a train, I might move if a free seat became available. Actually I felt a bit awkward on the last train journey I had. Although I'd found a single space I realised when the train started that I was facing backwards, which makes me feel ill. There were no forward facing single seats available so I had to leave my seat and go and sit next to someone. Embarrassing. Which is why I always take a backward facing seat: less chance of someone coming to sit next to me.
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Post by Moose on Jan 26, 2015 17:24:09 GMT
I've heard that before about backwards facing seats.. personally I've never noticed any difference at all
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Post by juju on Jan 26, 2015 18:13:19 GMT
I have dodgy inner ears - it doesn't take much for me to get motion sickness. I get it just tipping my head back. I'm usually OK on trains, but only as long as I can face forwards.
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Post by raspberrybullets on Jan 27, 2015 9:30:22 GMT
The train is completely full by about half way through my journey so it doesn't really matter where one sits.
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Post by Alvamiga on Jan 27, 2015 9:30:43 GMT
I prefer facing backwards on trains as I hate travelling at speed without a view ahead of me. That makes me feel nauseous!
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Post by spaceflower on Jan 27, 2015 23:24:48 GMT
Steve she might have thought you would consider it rude if she moved. I've had that dilemna on buses before - I will only sit next to someone if there are no other spaces. But then when the bus empties out I never know whether to move to a free double seat or not, in case the person I was sitting next to thinks that I am being insulting by not wanting to continue next to them. The thought has passed my mind. The other day the bus was full so I had to sit on the outer sit. As soon as there was an empty double seat free, I moved and I felt somewhat rude. But it was not really about personal space. If I sit on the inner seat, I can read a book or a paper. I get off at the end bus stop. But if I sit on the outer seat, I worry if the person on the inner seat will get off, and I have to get up and maybe drop my book etc. I feel lika I'm sitting on edge all the time and cannot relax and read.
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Post by raspberrybullets on Jan 31, 2015 10:08:55 GMT
That's cute - I happily read on the edge seat as I figure a person will tell me if they want to get out or at least start the standing up motion which indicates they want to move. What annoys me is when people start doing that and getting all pushy ages before the stop, as if they think the train (in my case it's generally train) is going to pull in and out in seconds.
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Post by bill on Feb 4, 2015 20:09:30 GMT
I prefer facing backwards on trains as I hate travelling at speed without a view ahead of me. That makes me feel nauseous! Or even nauseated.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 4, 2015 21:58:21 GMT
I might not move to an empty seat if I know I will get off anyway in one or two stops. And I get pushy early if the tram or bus are full. I have experienced not being able to get off where I wanted and having to go a stop further and needing to walk back. Once when I asked a woman to let me get up (and that wasn't even early, but about 500 my before the stop), she became really angry and refused to let me get up. Once the bus was standing, she finally moved and pushed me off the bus.
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Post by tangent on Feb 4, 2015 23:44:43 GMT
I have experienced not being able to get off where I wanted and having to go a stop further and needing to walk back. I did once that when I was four and travelling on a tram on my own. I didn't recognise my stop until it was too late and was slightly teary when I got off the tram. Once when I asked a woman to let me get up (and that wasn't even early, but about 500 my before the stop), she became really angry and refused to let me get up. Once the bus was standing, she finally moved and pushed me off the bus. That's incredibly rude.
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